Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

October 20, 2009

Kotaku editor Mike Fahey has written a wonderfully detailed and candid first-person account of his addiction to EverQuest.

Fahey begins his story in late 2000, noting that he had a job, a car and a girlfriend. Shortly after, following the breakup of his relationship, he was enticed to join the online world of EverQuest at the behest of his roommate. Falling completely for the game he soon found himself unemployed, his car towed and his wallet empty. While he rebounded for a time, he apparently committed the long rumored, rarely admitted geek-sin of turning down relations for a chance to hit level 40 with his character.

Mike again rebounded, turning his addiction into a job, which helped, as he states, “I've managed to turn a habit that once interrupted my work into something I actively have to do for work. It's no longer escapism if I am doing my job.”

Fahey also admitted that the fault was mostly, if not all, his own:

I hid. I ran from my problems, hiding away in a virtual fantasy world instead of confronting the issues that might have been easily resolved if I had addressed them directly. As far as I am concerned, the only thing Sony Online Entertainment is guilty of is creating a damn good hiding place.

Thanks Andrew

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Oh, so it's as simple as finding way to get paid for doing it is it?

And here I was thinking the key to beating it was paying someone to let you clean their house for them and bake cookies.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Did you bother to read the original article, or did you base your brain dead post on just the summary.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

What do you think?

I give about as much a shit for game addicts as I do for alcoholics or junkies.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

You sure sound like a total asshole.

The article is an excellent tale of overcoming a pattern of destructive behavior with the help of others. You could learn a thing or two from it to correct your douchebaggish behavior on the Internet.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

"You sure sound like a total asshole."

A penny could drop through dried cement quicker than it would drop for you. I've been one of GPs resident arseholes for close to 3 years now.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

That surely is something to be proud of. Well done!

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Seconded.  I feel bad for victims of accidents or circumstance, not people who make poor choices.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Yet another person who didn't actually read the article.

What else is new.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

I read it, Jackass.  I still have no sympathy for the shit the guy went through.  Respect to him for getting through it, but not sympathy.

Get off your high horse asshole.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

I love you too. *smooch*

Dick.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

You are the one accusing people of not reading the article because we don't necessarily feel supportive of someone who made his own choices in life. I, too, read the whole article, and throughout the entire thing, I had no sympathy for him. If he made the choice to call in to work just so he could play EQ, he deserved to get fired. No excuse for that. The man was making bad choices left and right, and I've no sympathy for that.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

So you don't give a "shit", but you take the time out of your day to say something stupid in an attempt to feel superior to them?

 

Gotcha.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Don't we all?

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

I give a shit about protecting free speech, and the addiction angle is the new hotness. 

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Good article that gives the real reasons for gaming and gambling addiction, though I feel that addiction is still the wrong word.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

:: Tips hat to the recognition of the game not being to blame but merely the "sand" he stuck his head in.  And to recognizing that the problem was that he needed to focus on what he was hiding from and face those problems. ::

Excellent.  Too bad it won't phase any of those "Pay us thousands of dollars to blame the 'sand' you're hiding in so we can 'cure' you." quacks.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

+1. I agree completely.

The final quotes on this article need to be shared with the "experts" who do "studies" on video games. This article expresses the truth that no one reallyl wants to say, and most people have ignored it for so long that they think this isn't the truth. It really is a sad state of affairs we're in at this particular moment in this topic.

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It always good to hear a story about someone over coming there addition!

http://www.magicinkgaming.com/

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

EQ is as bad as FF11 a total grind fewst where if you don;t devote your life to it you get no where 0-o


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I had two roomates in college who chose to let a game become their life other than deal with the harshness of real life responsibility.  One was an angry, bitter person suffering with such a superiority complex (common in universities) that he was frankly better off wasting away in Everquest.  The other guy was just plain lazy.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Is "Andrew" one and the same as "Senior GamePolitics Correspondent Andrew Eisen?" If so, give that man his props, damn it!!

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Well it wasn't me.  I don't read Kotaku regularly.  Only when GP references an article or when it comes up in Google.

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Nightwng2000 is now admin to the group "Parents For Education, Not Legislation" on MySpace as http://groups.myspace.com/pfenl

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

If Kotaku let you comment freely I would read it....



Until lobbying is a hanging offense I choose anarchy! Stop supporting big media and furthering the criminalization of consumers!! http://zippydsmlee.wordpress.com/

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Jesus Zippy, just read the article. It's good and well worth the time.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

"It's good and well worth the time."

That's what people said about GTA4. They were wrong.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

I thought you didn't have time for addicts and junkies?

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I said I didn't give a shit about them, different thing.

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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

But...but...but...but...that involes reading!!!!

:P


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Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Which I know you can do on some level.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Nothing against those who enjoy them but damned if I can find the fun in Everquest, World of Warcraft and other games of that ilk.

 

Andrew Eisen

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I like the genre (fantasy, D&D, RPG, etc), but I much prefer solo play.  I'm glad they include hirlings in some of the games, like Dungeons & Dragons Online and Guild Wars.  I just can't get into this play and chat thing.  It would probably be easier if it were speech, but then, I don't like speaking anyway.  It's not that I'm anti-social.  I just prefer to keep my active gaming and socializing seperate.

Of course, when it was all text based, that was a different story.  I miss DELPHI.  :(

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Gaming and socializing is exactly why I enjoy MMO's. I can pop online and chat with my buddies over TS while playing one of my favorite games. I love that, considering I tend to get bored playing SP games because of the fact that there is no social interaction.

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

 While I agree that its an interesting read, I enjoyed it when I found it on kotaku, is this article related to politics much?

 

Re: Kotaku Editor Details EverQuest Addiction

Tangentially.  Game addiction is one of those topics the pro-regulation folks like to grab onto so it's interesting to hear from someone with first hand experience.

 

Andrew Eisen

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Almost like some like that Exgamerdotnet idiot?

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